Now, yes, there are some employers who are so disorganized that calling them can be enough to get them to look at your application when they otherwise would not have.
But these employers are the minority, and they are also the very ones who you do not want to work for.
After an interview, if they’re interested in hiring you, they will contact you.
As for the notion that employers will assume that you’re not interested if you don’t follow up, or that you’re disorganized or bad at communicating … The onus really is on the employer to get in touch with you at that point, but if other priorities get in the way and the hiring timeline gets dragged out, there’s nothing wrong with checking in (by email, once) and letting them know that you’re still interested.
When I was only meeting one girl a month, there were so many qualities that I didn’t like that I would ignore simply because I didn’t want to have to start all over with someone else.
I would continue to date someone negative or rude or conceited and would just hope that things would just eventually “work themselves out”.
With this approach, I went on one first-date every month, sometimes less.
All of these dates were very stressful because of the time being I devoted just to get to the date.